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Life Lessons and Turning Thirty

“Turning thirty” try saying that five times fast! I struggle saying it once, too many T’s. As my thirtieth year drew near, I started noticing all the expectations I had set for myself for things I wanted to achieve before it came. The list goes like this:

• Finish school

• Get married

• Buy a house

• Have a career

• Own a car

• Own a dog

• Have a kid

And while I was able to achieve many, I felt disappointed in myself. I hadn’t completed them all, and it dawned on me that none of this matters. I mean, it does; having a family and the means to take care of it, do matter but the time frame for achieving these things does not. Of course, it would be preferred to have your finances sorted while you are young because that might help with an early retirement but all in all we shouldn’t burden ourselves with whether or not we were able to achieve big goals before a certain age. Here are a few other things I have learned in my twenties.

College and Trade School are both Great Options

I must admit, while I was in my late teens and early twenties, I was very smug. I was a young college student and ready to do what it takes to get my degree. I frowned upon those who decided to go to a trade school and I thought I was doing better by going to college. Well, turns out I got my degree but I didn’t necessarily need my degree to get to where I am today. I still think college is worth it but not an end all decision. If the options are go to college or go to trade school, I’d say do at least one. Either is better than not pursuing further education.

Don’t Rush Into Marriage

I personally know how annoying it is to have people invested in your personal life and feel the pressure to find a partner sooner rather than later but make sure you are doing this for the right reasons. Don’t marry just anyone to get people to stop asking “When are you going to get married?” Because guess what happens after you get married, they start to ask “When are you going to have kids?” And then you have a kid and the questions changes to “When are you going to have another one?” I will admit I’ve had to snap at a few people for asking these questions because they can be invasive and honestly it really isn’t any of their business. But to get back on topic (I can rant for days about people asking inappropriate questions so I’ll stop myself here) don’t rush into marriage.

If you find someone, make sure they are a good match. Find out about their past and how it has molded them. Now, I’m not saying go on a full blown investigation, but really vet them. After all, you will be spending the rest of your life with this person (hopefully). Marriage is a serious decision and should not be rushed. If something about the person rubs you the wrong way, don’t dismiss it.

Social Media is Overrated

There was a time when I would take a picture of my meals, because my friends and followers just had to know that I was eating good food. I had to document everywhere I went so that my life would seem exciting. I needed that rush of dopamine from likes to let me know I was doing good. After years of doing this, I got lazy, and didn’t feel like posting all the time. This turned out to be a blessing for me, because it made me realize that I don’t need to notify everyone of what I am doing or eating. Sometimes, the urge come back but I remind myself that I don’t need to prove myself to anyone online and I don’t owe anyone an explanation for what is going on in my life, and you don’t either. Unless you and an influencer, I guess.

Be Where Your Feet Are

Quoting Jason Mraz there, but seriously, be where your feet are. I have one huge bad habit and it’s that I can rarely ever be in the moment. As I write this I am on vacation and I can’t tell you how many times I have thought about what I need to do when I get back home. I have to actively remind myself to be in the moment. We can’t go back to the past and we can’t fast forward to the future so might as well enjoy the moment or at least be in it (for when the moment isn’t exactly a joyous one).

Be in the moment, is the last piece of advise I’ll give for this post. I hope this has helped give some perspective on a few things that really matter. I’ll leave you with a quote from Jason Mraz’ “Be Where Your Feet Are”

“If you’re lost, just relax

And be where your feet are”

“Be Where Your Feet Are” – Jason Mraz

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Blogging Journey, Blogging Life, Life

Three-Year Blogiversary!

As my three-year Blogiversary comes and goes, I decided to reflect on the past few months. I apologize for the lack of consistency. You’ll see soon why this was. I am thankful for those who have been following me throughout all this time. Thank you!!

The past three months have been hectic, to say the least. From apartment hunting to job hunting, I’ll admit there were many moments when I felt anxious and overwhelmed.
In this post, I want to share a bit of what these months looked like and give praise to God for getting us through them.

The first challenge came in June. My in-laws, who we rented from, were selling the house, and as the process progressed, my husband and I began our search for a new apartment. In the beginning, we viewed a few apartments in our neighborhood that we really liked, but when it came time to submit an application, they had rented it out. We were losing hope, and time was of the essence.

At this point, my husband took the wheel, and we set out to see a ton of apartments in one weekend (it was exhausting). We ventured out of our neighborhood after seeing there were no available apartments for us there. We eventually narrowed it down to two.

There was one we really wanted. It was massive, recently renovated, with tons of windows and three bedrooms. It would have come in really handy since I would be hosting family the following month. The second apartment was also newly renovated with lots of natural light but had two rooms. Either would be an upgrade from our studio apartment.

Although we really had our hearts set out for the first one, God had other plans. The first apartment didn’t work out, but the second one did. By God’s grace, we could even move in early at no extra charge. Looking back at this, my husband and I marveled at how the second apartment, although not our first choice, turned out to be exactly what we needed. It just goes to show, God always knows best.

After moving, the next challenge was unpacking before my family came. That was a rollercoaster. Luckily, our commute to work was now much shorter, buying us more time to work on the apartment. We had many nights of little sleep, but in the end, the apartment was mostly ready before my family came. This was probably the least burdensome task we had, but we are still grateful for God’s help in providing us the energy and time to do it all. It was a blessing to be able to host my family. I am very big on family, and was more than happy to have them around and sad to see them go.

The end of July came, and this became my breaking point at my job. I know many people have strong opinions about COVID and vaccines. I do too, but I let everyone do what they think is best for themselves, and I appreciate it when they do the same. My job had gotten to the point where they were putting very strict restrictions on unvaccinated employees.

I had expressed to my employers that I was not willing to get the vaccine at the moment because I would rather let my immune system do the work God has created it for and additionally provided a medical concern about why I did not want to get it. All of this went completely disregarded, and I was not jumping through hoops to keep my job simply because I decided on how I would handle my personal health.

I turned in my two weeks notice. At the time, I had a job offer but was hesitant to take it. I went back and forth for days until, ultimately, I decided against it. That same day, I went on another interview. I was offered the job and took it without hesitation. I’m not one for emotions and feelings, but something at this place felt “right.” I start working next week, but already I feel a sense of relief.

A lot has happened, as you can see, but God was there through it all. There were many moments of anxiety and helplessness, but in these moments, I was reminded that he is faithful regardless of my situation, and for that, I praise Him.

Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23

SDG – “Soli Del Gloria”

Adulting, Life, Pilgrimage

Podcast Recommendation: Stop and Think About It

If you are looking for a Christian podcast that is theologically sound to add to your list, look no more. The podcast I am talking about is called Stop and Think About It and it is run by one of my pastors, Phil Sessa, and one of my closest friends and brother in Christ, Glenroy Clarke. I have known both Pastor Phil and Glen for many years. Both are very solid in the faith and I trust their judgment. 

Pastor Phil in addition to pastoring my church, and running this podcast, also has his own ministry called Soul Fishing Ministries created to help equip Christians with tools to better evangelize. You can find the website here

Glen is also a writer and actually co-wrote one of my first blog posts.

The podcast is in the style of a conversation. It gives the feel that you are at the table with Pastor Phil and Glen and they discuss various topics affecting the church in this day and age. Topics range from theological questions to cancel culture. They have, in my opinion, valuable information and input to what is happening in today’s culture that we as Christians, should be mindful of and ready to discuss at any given moment. 

Hope you enjoy it!

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

You Are Not Enough Book Review
Adulting, Book Recommendations, Life, Pilgrimage, Reading Journey

Book Review: You Are Not Enough, (and That’s Okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

I had been listening to Allie Beth Stuckey’s podcast for a few months, maybe a year, when I heard, she was writing this book, and before I even knew what it was about or its title, I was excited. The book is titled “You Are Not Enough (and that’s okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love.” I knew it was going to be a good book, and I was right. Is it for everyone? I’d say so, but considering the topics, I’d say not everyone would agree. 

I say this because we currently live in a time where “self-love” and “self-care” are being pushed on us. We hear things like “you need to love yourself first,” “you need to take care of yourself and your feelings.” We hear people constantly say, “your emotions are valid” and countless other similar sayings, but these are not necessarily correct if we want to be biblical. Not to say you shouldn’t take good care of yourself, but you should not only focus on, well, you. There is more to life than bettering oneself, and as Christians, we are called to be Holy, for He is Holy; thus, the focus is not on us but Him. 

In this book, Allie covers the latest “self-care” trend and how we react to it as Christians, but she also touches on a few political matters and how we are to regard them through a biblical lens. She talks about “equality,” “social justice,” and many more. I put these words in quotation marks because although we hear them often, they tend to have different meanings based on who is speaking. “Equality” to a Christian is not the same as what “equality” is to the world. 

This is a book I would strongly recommend to my female friends and any bible believing woman. It is a much-needed book for the times we are in. I also recommend you check out a previous post of mine titled “You Will Never be Perfect (and that’s ok)” that touches on a few topics Allie discusses in her book, you can find that link here. I don’t want to give too much away but I will include some quotes below along with an Amazon link, in case you decide to purchase it. 

*I am an Amazon affiliate so I may get a small fee for any purchase you may make but this will be of no effect on the price you pay.*

“Without the Bible as our basis for justice, we get a system based on the only tool we have without a supreme moral Lawgiver: the self.”

Allie Beth Stuckey, You’re Not Enough (and That’s Ok): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

“The self isn’t enough—period. The answer to the purposelessness and hollowness we feel is found not in us but outside of us. The solutions to our problems and pain aren’t found in self-love, but in God’s love.”

Allie Beth Stuckey, You’re Not Enough (and That’s Ok): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

“When we follow Christ, we are never at risk of “losing ourselves,” because our identity is eternally found in him.”

Allie Beth Stuckey, You’re Not Enough (and That’s Ok): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

“Social justice is concerned not with equality of opportunity but equality of outcomes. In order to achieve this, it must hold back those who are ahead and push forward those who are behind. Equality of outcome is NEVER possible without government force.”

Allie Beth Stuckey, You’re Not Enough (and That’s Ok): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

“While it’s true that we have experiences and trauma that shape us, these things don’t equate to moral truths. They just happened. And maybe they were significant, and maybe they taught us something. But in order to know whether these lessons we learned are truths worth building our lives on, we have to compare them to the standard of truth, God’s Word.”

Allie Beth Stuckey, You’re Not Enough (and That’s Ok): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Adulting, Health, Life

Taking Charge of Your Fertility: Ovulation Prediction Kits (OPKs)

While I have been learning about how the female reproductive system works, I can’t help but be overcome with awe for God’s work. It is truly amazing what God has done. I am only aware of how a woman’s cycle can change throughout the month but can only imagine what else goes on in her body when a baby is growing. 

I learned that a woman’s bones around her hips expand to give room for the baby to pass through, and that is only one change that I have learned of. Can you imagine what else occurs in the woman’s body? Organs are relocated temporarily, the uterus is expanded, it’s quite miraculous when you think about it.

Now to lead this back to my previous post, during a menstrual cycle one of the many things that happens that can clue us into when we might be ovulating are hormonal changes. In specific the luteinizing hormone level rise. This happens as your ovaries are preparing to release the egg. The luteinizing hormone is also known as the “LH” rises as ovulation approaches. When ovulation is about to occur, the hormone level reaches a peak. Once you spot this peak, you can assume that the egg is to be released.

How can you detect this peak? You can purchase an Ovulation Prediction Kit, also known as “OPKs”. These tests detect the LH levels in your urine. Kind of like a pregnancy test but for LH levels instead. Based on the peak of the tests, some tests will tell you the egg will be released within the next 12-36 hours. It’s not exact math but I’d say that narrows it down quite a bit. But I wouldn’t solely rely on this method to keep track of ovulation.

It can happen that the test shows an LH peak but your body won’t release an egg making it inaccurate. The reason for this I am not sure, but it can happen. This is why you should take these tests in addition to taking your temperature and mentioned in my last post. Below you can find a few of the top-rated Ovulation Prediction Kits on Amazon.

*I am an Amazon affiliate so I may get a small fee for any purchase you may make but this will be of no effect on the price you pay.*

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Adulting, Life, Pilgrimage, Politics

How to Be a Better Informed Voter: 5 Non-Biased News Websites

With the Presidential Elections just around the corner and early voting in effect, I wanted to write this for those who are still undecided and haven’t voted. In this day and age, there is a huge amount of media bias in practically every news source out there. For years, I grew up watching the news and because I was young and not very into politics, I was not aware that I was being swayed to think one way without even noticing.

When I became an adult and obtained my own set of values and morals, was when I realized how biased some of the channels I watched were. I have since become pretty skeptical of many sites and TV channels. I do have my political leanings but I think it is important to get up to date news from websites that are mostly unbiased.

I think it is important, as an individual, to think for yourself and make up your own mind, regardless of what your family and friends may think. I typically don’t discuss politics outside of certain family members and close friends because of how polarized politics have made everyone. I am open to trying to understand why someone thinks differently than me but there have been times where I alluded to my own leanings and was immediately mocked. Hence why I don’t discuss politics with just anyone.

Anyway, I wanted to provide this list of websites where you can get your news and be able to formulate your own views and opinions without being swayed by media bias.

All Sides

All Sides gives your varying news articles on a subject from different websites and shows you which way they lean.

Real Clear Politics

Real Clear Politics provides articles from a mostly non-biased perspective.

C-Span

C-Span is a site with factual news and marked least biased by Media Bias Fact Check.

Gallup, Inc.

Gallup, Inc, is a research-based site providing factual information.

Media Bias Fact Check

Here you can check out most of the websites out there and see how they lean.

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Book Recommendations, Life, Pilgrimage, Thoughtfulness

Book Review: The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis

I’ve had many people recommend The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis. After hearing about it for a while I have now finally read it. I saw that Allie B. Stuckey’s book club would be reading it and figured, now is the time. I had never read a book with an online book club before and thought it would be cool. Although I did not comment on any of the review questions, I thought it was nice to be reading the same book with many other women in the faith.

When I began reading the book, it took some time to get into the style it was written in. The book is a series of letters written by Wormwood’s uncle Screwtape.

In these letters Screwtape gives instructions on how to keep his patient from growing in Christ and being saved. He offers suggestions on how to keep him distracted so he doesnt grow, such as being dissatisfied with his church, looking at other believers as if they fall short (which we all do) and thus he should not be part of them or that because they fall short, then the whole faith must be false. He suggests having the patient become good friends with the elite because that will keep him grounded in worldly things. He discouraged godly relationships, basically anything to distract him from the faith. 

I’m sure in our experience we have come across seasons where we are dissatisfied with our church or are holding onto relationships that are not good for us. I just find it fascinating how a book written some time ago still resonates with what is happening now, kind of mind boggling really!

*I am an Amazon affiliate so I may get a small fee for any purchase you may make but this will be of no effect to the price you pay.*

Here are a few quotes from the book so you can get a taste of what I mean:

“Surely you know that if a man can’t be cured of churchgoing, the next best thing is to send him all over the neighbourhood looking for the church that “suits” him until he becomes a taster or connoisseur of churches.”

C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

“Provided that any of those neighbours sing out of tune or have boots that squeak, or double chins, or odd clothes, the patient will quite easily believe that their religion must therefore be somehow ridiculous.”

C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

“The humans live in time but our Enemy (God) destines them for eternity.”

C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

“Indeed the safest road to Hell is the gradual one—the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts, Your affectionate uncle SCREWTAPE”

C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

“but it is His long-term policy, I fear, to restore to them a new kind of self-love—a charity and gratitude for all selves, including their own; when they have really learned to love their neighbours as themselves, they will be allowed to love themselves as their neighbours. For we must never forget what is the most repellent and inexplicable trait in our Enemy; He really loves the hairless bipeds He has created and always gives back to them with His right hand what He has taken away with His left.”

C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

“Prosperity knits a man to the World. He feels that he is ‘finding his place in it’, while really it is finding its place in him.”

C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

You can find a link to buy the book in this post. I think this book is worth the read. You will definitely see how concerns of the past are still relevant today. It is an interesting perspective to see how the enemy (the real enemy not the enemy in the book who is our Lord) might be plotting to keep up away from Christ and seeking spiritual growth. 

SDG- “Soli Deo Gloria”

Adulting, Life

5 Questions to Ask Before Posting on Social Media

“Why did you post that?” is a question I no longer want to ask myself. The question I would rather be asking is “Why am I posting this?”

Tensions have been high in the social media world these past couple of weeks. If you are on social media, I am sure you know why. I don’t wish to get into any specifics. I found myself so annoyed at the hate being spewed from all sides, that I removed myself from all platforms for a few days. 

I found that social media was doing me more harm than good. I found myself angry at people and annoyed at many things. I began to “mute” friends and family on Instagram and “Unfollow” on Facebook. 

As we all know, everyone has an opinion, and they are entitled to it, but what I was seeing was people outraged when you didn’t agree with them. I don’t like to make comments on high profile events happening at the time, because we generally do not have enough evidence and are running our mouths based on our emotions. Something I have learned the past couple of weeks is that facts don’t care about your feelings. It probably sounds a little cold and callous, but it’s true. In America, it seems we are fighting a war on racism that statistically doesn’t exist the way the media is portraying it, but of course, as I have learned over the years, people don’t do research. 

The funny thing is that after this is all over, and all the facts come to light, no one will admit that they were wrong and quick to speak. So to go back to my first paragraph, I decided to ask myself a few questions before sharing anything on social media. I refuse to have arguments on any social media platform, so what I post is thought out ahead of time. However, there will always be someone available to pick a fight, and I just don’t answer anymore. 

I wanted to share these questions with you so that you, too, can make deliberate decisions on what you will be sharing on social media. The one thing that should be shared at all times is the gospel; this is the only exception. 

Here goes, before you click “post”, “share”, or “tweet” ask yourself the following.

Why am I posting this?

Will this glorify God? Will this be of benefit to anyone? Is it teaching a lesson? Is this informative? Do I want to be provocative? Will this dim the light of the gospel? Is it offensive?

Who is this intended for?

Who is your audience? Will they learn from this or be offended? Is it kind? It is lovely?

Is it controversial?

Sometimes you might want to share something controversial but be ready to defend your standpoint and also know that you will most likely not change anyone’s mind on the internet. I think controversial topics are best discussed in person.

Is this factual or am I being emotional?

Many times we share things because we feel some type of way. I’m sure, at this point in our lives, we have learned how fickle our emotions can be. It would not profit anyone to post something based on emotion because once the feelings pass, we might regret it. This would probably cause more harm than good.

Will this help grow me as a person?

To be honest, the answer to this one is generally “no,” in my opinion. Nothing I have ever posted on social media has grown me as a person. At the very least, I can say I learned to stand my ground when it comes to my stance on abortion after one post, but that is all. This doesn’t mean we don’t post it, but rather, think about what it is and how it may affect the way you present yourself to the digital world before sharing it.

You aren’t obligated to run through a whole checklist before posting something, just keep some of these questions in mind before you share. You might discover, as I have over the past couple of days, maybe you don’t need to be on social media as much as you think you do.

I hope this post has helped you to be more thoughtful of the things you share because they do have some consequences. Just remember, do all things for the glory of Christ.

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Life, Pilgrimage

5 Quick Theology Podcasts

As you may know by now I love listening to podcasts. I have shared two of them in the past, Sheologians and Relatable but this time I decided to focus on five short podcasts. If you are looking for a quick lesson on theology, I hope you’ll find this post to be super helpful. Most of the podcasts I will mention here are typically shorter than ten minutes, so you can catch them on your way to the store, taking out the trash or any activity that doesn’t take much time. They are quick and informative. Check out the list below:

5 Minutes in Church History

5 Minutes in Church History is exactly that, 5 minutes. In these 5 minutes, you can hear short clips informing you of various topics and characters involved in church history, from Martin Luther to C.S. Lewis. I really enjoy this one because I learn something new every time. (As I write this, I am reminded of a book I’d like to find thanks to their podcast titled The Tyger and the Lamb)

Ask Pastor John

Ask Pastor John features John Piper, pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church for 33 years and author of many books including “Don’t Waste Your Life” (I did a review of this book a few months ago), answering questions submitted to him in this podcast. There have been many interesting questions that I myself have had and I’m glad John Piper is willing to answer them. Not only was he a pastor for many years and an author but he is also the founder and senior teacher of DesiringGod.org, which makes him all the more credible. So, if you have theological questions, maybe you should submit them -maybe he’ll even answer them on the podcast.

Open Book with Stephen Nichols

Open Book with Stephen Nichols is a Ligonier Ministries podcast. Stephen Nichols quickly discusses books read and studied by R.C. Sproul, founder of Ligonier, and John MacArthur, author and general editor of the MacArthur Study Bible and founder of Grace to You. In this podcast he discusses books that have shaped the way R.C. Sproul and John MacArthur think. Most segments are shorter than 10 minutes and if you are like me and love reading, it’s worth listening to, with a notebook at hand, to jot down books to buy, because we all know, you can never have enough books, much less theological books for our spiritual growth.

**As a disclaimer, any Amazon links are affiliate links, which means that if you order from the link, I get a small advertisement fee at no additional cost to you.**

Renewing Your Mind Minute with R.C. Sproul

Renewing Your Mind Minute is exactly one minute long, I kid you not. Every segment is one minute. The podcast involves Mr. Sproul, briefly introduced in my last podcast, who answers questions and provides quick insights into reformed theology. It goes through topics such as Legalism, Escaping the Wrath of God and so many others. One minute lessons from R.C. Sproul are great for obtaining quick and useful information about the Christian faith.

Simply Put

Simply Put is another Ligonier Ministries podcast, but rather than going through books or topics it provides definitions for theological terms we all may have heard and are learning about. It can help you increase and build your christian vocabulary. This podcast’s episodes are typically less than 5 minutes and provide insightful and simple explanations to words and terms we may have heard thrown around during sermons or at conferences -words such as theophany and imputation. Save this to your list of podcasts and check it out whenever you come across any theological term you may not understand. This podcasts’ episode list is pretty expansive and continues to grow.

I hope you enjoyed this list and have saved each and everyone of these to check out later. It is always a pleasure for me to share any tidbit of information I come across with other believers. I am by no means an expert, I am just a girl seeking to know Christ more and live like Him. If there are any other short podcasts out there, please feel free to let me know about them in the comments section below. I’d love to check them out.

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

-Matthew 5:16 ESV

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Adulting, Life, Pilgrimage, Thoughtfulness

Adulting: 5 Lessons I’ve Learned

If there is something I consider to be a complete waste of time, energy and breath, it’s complaining, huffing and puffing at a fast-food chain because they are understaffed and not getting your order out as fast as you expected. I see this all the time. Obviously, these workers are running around trying to do at least two jobs at once and your huffing and puffing is of no use, it will not make then work faster than they are at the moment.

Don’t grow up to be that cranky old person, set in their ways who only care about themselves and what they want. Maybe it’s because I live in New York, and New Yorkers seem to be the rudest, most self-centered people on the planet (I exaggerate here) but you get the point. New Yorkers are known to be rude, they always want things their way and when they don’t get it, they huff and puff like the big bad wolf. Don’t be like typical New Yorkers, be considerate. 

I was recently at a KFC waiting in line for my food, I brought up the understaffed scenario because that is exactly what was going on here. I was stuck in line in front of a man, who from the very beginning came in with a bossy and demanding attitude. He wanted to know if they had chicken tenders and he wanted his answer fast. To his surprise, he came into an understaffed KFC that had employees running everywhere and no one was getting to him as fast as he wanted, which led him to mutter under his breath complaints about how he just wanted a yes or no answer to a simple question. After getting his answer (yes, they have chicken tenders FYI) he stood in line behind me. All the while I waited patiently for my food, this man shifted back and forth and often complained that they only had 3 workers and the line was getting longer, obviously anyone with eyes can see that. He proceeded to complain about the service and even tried to engage in conversation with me as if I was going to agree with him.

There are a few things I have learned during my few adult years, here are a few of them.

Complaining Usually Does Not Result In Much

I mean seriously, has constantly complaining helped any? I know there is a saying, the squeaky wheel gets the oil, however, I don’t think that applies to complaints, they fall into a constantly inquiring category. You constantly ask for the status of something and eventually, the person being questioned resolves what you want, but complaining… That’s different. As much as I dislike my job at times (I have noticed I complain every chance I get and I shouldn’t) it doesn’t make the problem go away. Complaining about the pains of my job and difficulties I face on a daily basis, is not going to get my work magically done. It just doesn’t help resolve anything so why spend our precious time in it (I am really speaking to myself here, its something I struggle with, to be honest)

“Do all things without grumbling or disputing…”

Philippians 2:14 (ESV)

Be Nice To People, It Usually Has Good Results

Have you ever heard the saying “ you catch more bees with honey” well you do! Being nice to people has never resulted in a negative way for me. Sure, not everyone is nice, some people are just plain rude and nasty but that doesn’t mean you have to be also. I had a client who disliked me from the moment he met me, I have no idea why he was just always rude to me and constantly compared me to his prior paralegal. He always found a flaw in everything I did, to be honest, I hated when he called because I knew he was going to complain about something but I picked up the phone and kindly answered every question he had, I figured I’d kill him with kindness. Well, after a year of being kind to this man who was always rude, he started calling me nicknames, like “love” and “sweetheart” (in Spanish), I was taken aback the first time, but soon after getting used to it.

It was not something I would have expected from him, by the time his case settled and everything was done, he actually thanked me for all the help I provided him, this after he had a small fit, left my office only to come back half an hour later and apologize to me because “I have always been kind to him and I did not deserve for him to have acted that way”, he asked me for a hug before he left and walked out of my life forever. I think I will remember forever, my toughest client turns nice and acknowledges my kindness, see, being kind pays off. You also get people to help you out more if you are kind to them. I can’t tell you how many times I have been kind to someone who I haven’t even met in person, and they are also kind back. A little bit of kindness goes a long way.

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV)

Admit When You Are Wrong

This is something I need to do more often than I would like to admit, especially at work. How many times have I made mistakes at my job? I have no idea. I know I wrote a blog post on this topic before, you can find the link here. I have grown so much from admitting I made a mistake, preferably, I would rather not make them in the first place but at least there is always a lesson. From every mistake I have made, I have learned what not to do and how to correctly handle a situation.

“If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.”

1 John 1:8 (ESV)

Own Up To Your Mistakes

Also aligned with the point above, owning up to my mistakes has grown me so much. I have learned many lessons and God has humbled me every time I had to admit I messed up.

“Repent, therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out”

Acts 3:19(ESV)

Learn From Your Mistakes and Keep It Moving

I have met many people who are stuck in a rut, why? Because they do not want to admit they made a mistake, it takes humility to do that and humility is not a trait that comes easy. It is the complete opposite of pride, the sin that is the root of many other sins.

“for the righteous falls seven times and rises again,”

Proverbs 24:16 (ESV)

Adulting is by no means easy, I think most of us who have entered adulthood can admit, we can relate to a young bird who is pushed off the ledge by his mother so he can learn to fly except, we hit the side of the cliff 40 times before we achieve takeoff. 

I hope you enjoyed this post, feel free to comment on any of your adulting lessons below.

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

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