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Adulting, Life, Thoughtfulness

Adulting: Owning Up to My Mistakes

I work full time as a paralegal for a busy personal injury law firm and this job comes with a great deal of responsibility and a need to be cautious and attentive to deadlines. In addition to looking out for deadlines, I need to make sure all the papers that will be served are properly organized and that the language contained therein is correct. A great deal of revision goes into my work and sometimes even with the revisions I can miss something. Not always in the document itself but in following specific legal procedures.

So with this said, there have been times I have missed a deadline, or forgot to file something which can be a bit of a problem but I have learned that instead of shying away from the problems and trying to find an excuse as to why, what ever it was, was not done, I admit I messed up and own up to my mistakes. Trust me it is not very easy and I think it takes quite a bit of humility but it is always worth it.

Why? Well you learn. I have learned so much during the times I have spent with others correcting a problem, even when I was the reason it came to be.

I enjoy solving puzzles and love finding the solution to things. In the case where I need to solve one of these complicated legal procedural puzzles at work, that is not fun, at all! In fact, these are probably the most stressful days at work for me. I always picture my life on the line and myself at risk on being let go. It really builds up my anxiety.

But, God has been very gracious to me. He has surrounded me with people who seem to favor me, for one reason or another, and are always willing to help.

Admitting I was wrong and taking charge of the situation, although stressful, has really grown me as an professional and as an adult. I definitely feel more competent, (it might sound weird to say I feel competent after endeavoring in a stressful adventure that I got myself in by making a mistake) but in the end the learning process in the challenge makes it all worth while.

I have never regretted admitting my wrongs because they have helped me grown and learn.

So if you are prone to make mistakes, hopefully not as many mistakes as me, feel encouraged. It is ok to admit you are wrong and when you admit it, you will learn something new. For me it some sort of legal procedure but the fact that I can admit I was wrong and I made a mistake I think makes me a stronger and more knowledgeable person overall. It has been one of the most important things I learned while “adulting”.

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

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Thoughtfulness

How I Finished College and Kept my Sanity

Looking back on my life and all that I have accomplished, I must admit, the single achievement I am most proud of is graduating college. Why? Well because it was in college that I learned the most in my life.

I started college at the age of 18 and for the first year, I floated through it not really lending much attention to my studies. A year later, I began my first official job and immediately my entire perspective on education shifted. I quickly learned that in order to handle both work and school well, I had to change the way operated in some areas. It was great because the skills I had developed not only helped me with my academics but completely changed the way I did everything else.

I learned to prioritize and multitask effectively which have helped me greatly in my professional career. If I could, I would go back in time and implement what I learned sooner. I wish I had known how to plan ahead and take charge of what was important when I first began college but, instead of dwelling on the past, I will instead pass on what i’ve learned in the hopes that it might help others.

Here are a few things I learned that helped me excel during my time in college.

Make time, Plan Ahead and Prioritize

There were times where I had a major paper or assignment due by the end of the week but, with work after class from the afternoons through the evenings, I was left with very little time to actually sit down and focus on my work. I had to do some schedule rearranging and eliminate anything unnecessary and time-consuming. While in college, my younger brother called me “boring Angie,” because he knew that once school started I was in full-on focus mode. I rain-checked on a lot of fun stuff in order to make sure my work got done and would squeeze time in, both, before and after work for my studies. It was a sacrifice, but a temporary one that saw me through each semester.

Be Committed

Think on the end result. As Troy Bolton from High School Musical would say “You gotta get your head in the game and don’t forget it.” I don’t think I can count the number of times I had to remind myself of why I was doing this. It was most definitely not easy, but oh so worth it. I kept thinking about my graduation day and how satisfying it would feel to know that I earned that degree, not to mention all of the opportunities and privileges that would inevitably come with it. That was all the motivation I needed, but I needed to remind myself of it frequently.

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Always Make Sure to Spend Some Time Doing What You Love

Every time a new semester was about to begin my younger brother would start with the whole “here comes boring Angie” jazz. When I asked him why he’d always say that, he would tell me that it was because, when I was in school I was grumpy, serious and never down to do anything fun. And he was right. When school came around, I was full steam ahead on my studies. So upon realizing this, I would occasionally try and make time for something fun. This was not only because I didn’t want to be regarding as boring Angie by my family and friends, but also because I needed to keep my own sanity. I’m sure you have heard the saying “all work and no play….” Well, it’s true.

So whatever you do, make sure you take some time out for recreation, relaxation and most importantly family and friends. It’s all about balance. Mostly work and some play, and once the semester is over, just play (with work, of course).

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Thoughtfulness

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers in My Life

Happy Mother’s Day to all you mother’s our there! Today, I would like to pay tribute the all the mothers in my life and give thanks to the Lord for placing them in my life.

I have had the pleasure of being surrounded by great moms throughout my life. They have all, in some way, contributed to who I am today. Whether by way of some small token of advise or much needed reprimand, I am a lot better today because of them. I am thankful because they have added much wisdom to my life, both, directly and indirectly.

Recently, I have watched many close friends of mine become mothers and I have seen them grow in the process. I always joke that motherhood adds a whole deeper level of maturity, and I stand by that statement. Sure, my friends and I are close in age but they seem so much wiser than me in almost every way, and this I can only attribute to motherhood.

So much work goes into raising a child; from what should they eat and wear to when they should sleep. From teething to “teening” it is a great responsibility, perhaps even above anything else out there.

When and if you are blessed with the privilege of raising another human being, you have to realize that you are actually playing a major role in the shaping of another individual’s life. That is no simple task and because I merely observe all this work from the outside, I want to continue to encourage all mothers out there. You are doing a terrific job! Do not second guess yourself. I hope you do not feel as if your work counts for nothing. What you do is extremely important and can be done by no one else but you -certainly not to the same extent.

I know that one day you will look back, if you haven’t already, and know it was all worth it. And your children will thank you for it.

Her children rise up and call her blessed” ‭‭

Proverbs‬ ‭31:28‬a ESV‬‬

While I am here thanking all the mothers for their life lessons and hard work, I must also thank my very own mother. I cannot imagine what my life would be like without her.
She is probably the strongest woman I know. She has raised 4 kids, all of which through different ages and life stages (our age gaps are no joke) and I cannot imagine what my life would be like without her. Mami, I thank you for always thinking of me, for the “Good morning, Princess” texts in the morning. I want you to know that I will always be here for your and that you are a real inspiration. I can only hope to one day be half as good a mother as you are. I love you mami!

I know not everyone can relate to how I feel about my mother but I imagine, for many of you, there is or has been that special someone in your life who is or has shown a level of motherly love and affection towards you. Someone that you love and appreciate dearly, even if she is technically not a mother. There are many women who have poured into our lives and even though they may not have children of their own they possess those key motherly characteristics. Therefore, they too should be thanked and shown appreciation.

So I urge you, thank your mother. Thank that special mother or mother-like individual(s) in your life. Thank your friends who are mothers and make sure that they know how much you love them and appreciate them for their tireless labor. Show them you love and appreciate all that they do, not just on Mother’s Day, but everyday.

I will again thank my strong mother, my compassionate mother-in-law, and all of my close friends and sisters in Christ who have continually blessed me by simply honoring the Lord Jesus and exemplifying His love through their parenting. I love you all dearly!

Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.’”

Proverbs 31:29

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Book Recommendations, Thoughtfulness

Reflections of a Dominican-American

Happy belated Dominican Independence Day!

This past week was Dominican Independence Day and when I think about the Dominican Republic I always come back to the years I lived there as a child. When I lived there I did not appreciate it at all, but now that I’m older I can’t help but feel nostalgic and wish that I could go back to those days. And because I am feeling nostalgic, I thought I’d share with you a bit about my heritage. I am a Dominican-American. I have lived most of my life in the United States but I hold close to my culture.

I didn’t grow up in the fancy or more advanced part of the Dominican Republic, I grew up in a small town by the beach with my dads side of the family. To this day, I have no clue what the nice parts of the Dominican Republic look like but hope to one day find out.

My grandfather had been a fisherman and his sons followed the same route. My grandfather, who we all know as Papa, ran a small pescadería (a fish market) and his sons and others provided the fish to be sold. My whole family lived by this beach, Papa’s beach. I lived with an uncle, his wife, and their children. They took me and my older brother in as if we were one of their own. My older brother always had a much more carefree spirit than me, I was more of a grumpy old troll stomping around, complaining about wanting to return to New York every time I got the chance.

Looking back, I wish I could simply return to those days when I lived by the beach. I wish I could just sit for a whole afternoon staring off beyond the coast and not worry about a thing or listen to the slapping of the palm leaves against each other on a windy day or the rain tapping at our tin roof on a stormy night.

Gone are the nights when we sat on the sidewalk when the light went out and told ghost stories about pepito (who just happened to be the protagonist of all our scary stories). Those are the moments that I cannot regain. I can only look back at them, just as someone looks into a snow globe, wishing that life stood still so that they could revisit those moments that were precious to them.

Nevertheless, I am proud that I can tell stories such as these. Simpler times I experienced as a child, the sweet memories of life on my beautiful island, the Dominican Republic. Maybe the reason I look back at those times with fondness is that, deep down, I regret not appreciating the time I had there. Maybe God had been trying to teach me contentment as a child and here I am, an adult reminiscing about time lost. Every once in a while my nostalgia leads me to write a short story, maybe I’ll share a few with you guys in the future.

I recently came across a book that I am interested in reading, it’s titled Too American to be Dominican. Too Dominican to be American. It’s funny because this is exactly how I feel sometimes. I think it will be a good read and might provide more insight into my beloved culture.

SDG – “Soli Deo Gloria”

Love Life, Pilgrimage, Thoughtfulness

The Story of How My Husband and I Began Dating

Hey everyone, in light of Valentines Day, I thought I’d share how my husband and I started dating.

I met Michael at my church back in the late summer of 2013 and upon our first conversation I immediately knew he was ineligible for dating. I learned three things in our first, very brief conversation; He was in a relationship, he went to Continue Reading

Pilgrimage, Thoughtfulness

Resources for Christian Women: Part 2 (and why I won’t call myself a Feminist)

Resources to me come in many different forms. You have websites, books, apps, and podcasts. This week I will be focusing on a particular podcast series, but before I get into the content itself, I first want to share something that has been heavy on my heart. Recently the city of New York Continue Reading

Pilgrimage, Thoughtfulness

The Perfect Gift at Christmas

This month, I am slightly ashamed to admit, I have probably watched over 15 Hallmark Christmas movies and loved pretty much all of them. At this point, I can guess the plot, and pinpoint reoccurring themes like: a gingerbread house is made, there is a tree lighting ceremony, cookies are baked, trees are decorated, it snows, a man and woman fall in love. Half the time, one of the protagonists is from the city, or a small town person and moved to the city, and falls in love with the small town again. Somewhere Continue Reading

Gift Giving, Thoughtfulness

10 Practical Christmas Gifts for the Men in your Life

This holiday season has been a fairly productive one, though not exactly in the way I had hoped. To me, a truly productive holiday season is one spent running around with family, baking goodies, and quite simply preparing for Christmas. Instead, it has been work, work, and yes…more work. I had also intended to post on a more consistently Continue Reading

Gift Giving, Thoughtfulness

Christmas Gifts for the Book Nerd in your Life

Christmas is upon us and I am ready!

I’m ready to make my way to a particular store with a specific gift in mind. Once at the store, I will make my way to the aisle where it is located, find it and pick it up. Then, I will walk over to the line for the cashiers, pay and happily return home knowing how delighted the gift recipient will be when they open it. Continue Reading

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